I, too, like a change in pace once in a while to take a break from the grind of life. Unfortunately, a high percentage of the individuals I work with have ‘ooppses’ or complete ‘crashes’ during vacation times.
To the Warrior fighting the addiction: Remember that you are a serious threat to Satan. Remember that that does not change just because church is different on Sunday (conference) and you don’t have school all week (Spring Break). Remember the personality of Lamanites and Demons, they lie in wait to attack you when you just want a break and plan to be lazy.
You all know how to patrol your borders to make sure you stay safe. We have trained you in this area. Do your patrol every day, even if you don’t feel like it. Yes, it is challenging to relax and have fun at the same time you stay cautious. Don’t make laziness your goal for vacation days. You have worked hard to do well in school/work and to fight against your addictive patterns for a while now. You are going to want a break. We have learned that during vacation days it is important to play, and to play hard; to rest and to rest hard, and if there is work to be done, work hard, get it out of the way, and get back to playing hard!
Brainless and spiritless playing will not rejuvinate you. Find good friends to go do good activities. If you can’t find someone to hang out with, text me or email me and I will hook you up with someone from your Sofh training group who may also be struggling to find someone to hang out with.
Also, if your parents/spouse make a clumsy effort to encourage your success during this vacation, say thank you with love and respect…even if you don’t want to.
Work Hard! Play Hard! Rest Hard!
To the loved one’s of the warrior (parents/spouses): First, let him (or her) know this post is available to read. Print it off for him if you need to. Second, ask him if he is pleased with his plan to win battles for the next 24 hours (ask this once a day). Third, feel free to periodically throughout the day ask him if he is pleased with how well he is following his plan (you might be accused of being obnoxious for doing this, but the reminders are worth it). Avoid long conversations and/or lectures. You don’t even have to wait around for the answer to the questions. Often it is more powerful to ask the “Are you pleased…?” question then leave the room so the warrior fighting the addiction can swim in the spirit of the question. If your loved one has texting, this is a powerful way to ask the question without conflict. If your warrior is not using our Text Coaching program, read the blog posting from a few weeks ago on the subject and seriously consider signing him up for it. (FYI- You don’t have to be registered for Sons of Helaman to use the Text Coaching program.)
If your young warrior is in our Sons of Helaman training program, then he should respond to your support with a degree a gratitude. If he does not, please let me know so we can fine tune his training in this category.
May you all have a rejuvinating vacation with no unfortunate setbacks!