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First, let’s look at what doesn’t work…
-Make plans based on other people changing…”I would be happier if he/she would just…”
-Waiting for something in the future…”I will be happy when…”
-Assumptive Comparisons…”They are happier than I am because…”
-Losing confidence in God and Eternal principles…”Since you aren’t making me happy, I am going to…” (Impatience, distrust)
-Use things/activities other than Divine energy to gain “fulfillment”.
Happiness not = life experience/situation. Too many examples contradict each other. Married/Not Married, Kids/No Kids, Big Business/Failed Business, Not enough friends/too many friends.
The Sensation of Happiness = control of brain chemistry = intentional thought stimulation.
Rats in cage. Flipping lever. Using intentional thoughts to flip the lever.
Slight difference: Happy feelings are like the fruit of a plant. Comes 3 months after planted if seed is a good seed, it is nurtured and protected, weeds are pulled. (Can’t ask, “What can I do today to be happy today.” Doesn’t work. Happy today = 3 months (a season) of work.)
Adams and eve…no longer good things grow on accident…planted, nurtured, pull weeds.
Unhappiness = weeds/thoughts that grow into feelings/chemical reactions.
-Consider the Parable includes a bad guy throwing bad/ seeds into the garden when you are not looking.
-How involved can Satan get?
Okay, how do we stimulate happiness?
Joseph Smith, Lectures on Faith (3:2-5)
1-Believe there is a God, and that this life has meaning
2-Accurate understanding of God’s personality, expectations (when is he pleased, when is he not)
3-Knowledge that the life you are pursuing is according to God’s will. (Hold your life in proper perspective.) “This is my beloved son/daughter, in whom I am well pleased.”
To help with Step 2:
-“This is life eternal, that they might know him”
– Read and re-read everything you can about Him
– Write letters to Him
– Mirror His (his son’s) thought processes
To help with Step 3:
-Think, Be, Do as closely to what you learn from Step 2 as you can.
-Flipping chemical switches, planting seeds,
-At the end of each day, ask, “Are You Pleased?”
-Knowing you are on track
-Knowing you are making the best of a situation
-Being aware of what you have, gratitude
Extra ideas if there is time:
-Preside – Lead
-Provide – Build
-Protect – Fight
-Nurture – Encourage growth
-Grief is not Depression: The Grief Cycle, Maurice Style
-Sin based Thrill, Fun or Reality avoidance do not produce happiness
-4 levels of development:
Maslow’s pyramid, self actualization, is still not Celestial Interdependence