Written by L.R. with a few alterations by me.
I was on a date a little over a week ago, and the subject came around to Pornography. Now for the unprepared guy, I guess, that would be an awkward conversation, to say the least. But for me, I am ready, and I expect it. I hope my sister and all other young women have the courage to ask the necessary questions. I hope the men have the guts to supply the young woman with honest answers!
My friend felt seriously scarred by Pornography. Two men she had dated, one of which she had almost married, had been porn-addicts, which led to them treating her like an object.
“I’ve learned so much since then,” she said, “I knew all along that there was something wrong, but I just didn’t know what it was.”
When a wife or a mother to a porn addict discovers the problem, almost every one says the same thing, “I knew something was wrong, but I didn’t know what.” Women almost seem to have a sixth sense that tells them, “Woah! Wait a minute! Something is not right here.” The name Sons of Helaman gives to this power is the “Creepy Guy Detector”. Girls who learn to recognize and validate this sensation can often discern a porn addict just by observing him closely.
I hadn’t yet told my friend about this when she said:
“You’ll think I’m weird, but I can just tell now when a guy has a problem or not. Usually just by looking into his eyes, but for sure when I hug him. By the time I’ve finished hugging him I can tell whether he is a porn addict or not.
“I’m really good at it. With every guy who has set off my senses and I have confronted, he has admitted he has a problem. Not a single guy I’ve been wrong about. I’m just totally honest with them, ‘do you look at pornography?’ and they tell me. Sometimes they break out and start crying.”
The Creepy Guy Detector, I believe is a gift from God, for women to be able to protect themselves. Heavenly Father “delights in the chastity of women”, He loves to see them happy and clean and free. He knows the pain that sexual addicts will bring them, and has blessed them with this extra sense.
Addicts need to be aware of this, if you think you’re hiding this and no one knows, you’re only fooling yourself. The women in your life know. They may not know exactly what is wrong, but they know something is wrong. When a wife or mother finds out about a sexual problem their husband or son has had, the almost universal response is, “I knew something was wrong, I didn’t know what, but now I do.”
Many addicts use the Creepy Guy Detector as motivation to keep fighting. “Why are you fighting?” “So I can date girls and their Creepy Guy Detector won’t go off.” Becoming free of addiction, not only frees yourself, but it also frees up emotionally all the women who love you and care about you.
Let me know if you have any questions.
If you discover your son or boyfriend is a user, you will want to check out http://www.sonsofhelaman.org/.
If you discover your husband is a user, check out http://www.worthgrouplcs.org/.