A thought about evening battles. Almost everybody I know gets attacked in the evening, and most of them don’t know how to win those battles. To break the pattern of hellish thoughts and feelings at the end of the day, you have to use that time to plan and strategize what you are going to do the next day toward making the world a better place. If you are a man, it is vital you focus on the 3 “P”‘s from the Family Proclamation: Preside, Provide, Protect. If you are a women, Nurture.
I have rituals of looking at my blog statistics to see what topics people are interested in most so I can plan what to write about tomorrow. I think of what the people around me need and make a list. I ponder ways I can Preside/Lead better; ways I can Provide/Build better, ways I can Protect/Fight better. Please don’t think I developed these rituals naturally. This has all been very hard for me to do. I keep pondering until I have a plan I can get Passionate about! It doesn’t need to be an overwhelming passion; just a spark will do!
The only way to get through this difficult and painful life is for the pain to have meaning. The only way to create meaning, is to plan and do meaningful things. Meaningful things take time to formulate and execute. When you have been in as much pain as many of you have been in, your mind may not practiced at approaching each day in this manner.
One of the ways I try to bring my life meaning is by empowering young men to win their morality battles and go on to serve missions that they probably would not have been able to do otherwise. I told my daughter last night on the way home from dance that I was going to help 2000 young men get on missions. She asked how many I have helped so far. I said about 140. She said you will never get to 2000. I told her I only have to do one at a time and I will eventually get to 2000. It stretched her mind a little, but I think she got it.
I work to find ways to make my life meaningful. Often it is with very small and simple things (emptying the dishwasher, vacuuming the floor), but when I do so, my brain releases chemicals that are the opposite of depression, anxiety and addiction stimulating. If I, instead, do something I “feel like” doing, like being lazy, playing a video game or in general being unproductive, my brain does not release those chemicals, and I become vulnerable to the unpleasant experiences I am trying to fight.
I can write more on this topic…let me know if you have any follow up questions.