Some Important Secrets of Happiness

Some Important Secrets of Happiness
(The following is my notes for a presentation I am doing today at the Weber State University Institute building.  You will find much more additional information by reading many of the other hundreds of articles I have written on this web site.  Enjoy!)

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First, let’s look at what doesn’t work…
-Make plans based on other people changing…”I would be happier if he/she would just…”
-Waiting for something in the future…”I will be happy when…”
-Assumptive Comparisons…”They are happier than I am because…”
-Losing confidence in God and Eternal principles…”Since you aren’t making me happy, I am going to…”  (Impatience, distrust)
-Use things/activities other than Divine energy to gain “fulfillment”.

Happiness not = life experience/situation.  Too many examples contradict each other.  Married/Not Married, Kids/No Kids, Big Business/Failed Business, Not enough friends/too many friends.

The Sensation of Happiness = control of brain chemistry  = intentional thought stimulation.

Rats in cage. Flipping lever.  Using intentional thoughts to flip the lever.

Slight difference: Happy feelings are like the fruit of a plant.  Comes 3 months after planted if seed is a good seed, it is nurtured and protected, weeds are pulled.  (Can’t ask, “What can I do today to be happy today.”  Doesn’t work.  Happy today = 3 months (a season) of work.)

Adams and eve…no longer good things grow on accident…planted, nurtured, pull weeds.

Unhappiness = weeds/thoughts that grow into feelings/chemical reactions.
-Consider the Parable includes a bad guy throwing bad/ seeds into the garden when you are not looking.
-How involved can Satan get?

Okay, how do we stimulate happiness?

Joseph Smith, Lectures on Faith (3:2-5)
1-Believe there is a God, and that this life has meaning
2-Accurate understanding of God’s personality, expectations (when is he pleased, when is he not)
3-Knowledge that the life you are pursuing is according to God’s will. (Hold your life in proper perspective.)  “This is my beloved son/daughter, in whom I am well pleased.”

To help with Step 2:
-“This is life eternal, that they might know him”
   – Read and re-read everything you can about Him
   – Write letters to Him
   – Mirror His (his son’s) thought processes

To help with Step 3:
-Think, Be, Do as closely to what you learn from Step 2 as you can.
   -Flipping chemical switches, planting seeds,
-At the end of each day, ask, “Are You Pleased?”
   -Knowing you are on track
   -Knowing you are making the best of a situation
   -Being aware of what you have, gratitude

Extra ideas if there is time:
-For Men
   -Preside – Lead
   -Provide – Build
   -Protect – Fight

-For Women
   -Nurture – Encourage growth

-Grief is not Depression:  The Grief Cycle, Maurice Style

-Sin based Thrill, Fun or Reality avoidance do not produce happiness

-4 levels of development:
Maslow’s pyramid, self actualization, is still not Celestial Interdependence

About Maurice W. Harker, LPC

Director of Life Changing Services, Director of Sons of Helaman, Facilitator of the WORTH group, Consultant for the Daughters of Light program.