Triggers vs Alarms

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In modern psychology, the term “triggers” refers to stimuli or events that evoke strong emotional or behavioral reactions in individuals, often associated with past traumatic experiences or deeply ingrained associations.

The Interdependent Symphony of Marriage

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In the symphony of marriage, 1 Corinthians 11:11, rooted in the Corinthian context, and principles from LDS doctrine harmonize with 1 Corinthians 12 to illuminate the profound interdependency of husbands and wives.

Circus Mirrors and Feedback Sessions

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In a world where we are often judged by others and where we may inadvertently judge ourselves based on the opinions of those around us, it is important to remember that the only true and accurate reflection of our worth comes from a higher power. The phrase, “Well done my good and faithful servant,” highlights […]

Warrior Chemistry: A Profound and Innovative Approach to Self-Mastery

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In an age where physical threats have been largely replaced by psychological ones, a novel concept known as “Warrior Chemistry” has emerged as a unique psychological strategy to counter these unseen, yet ever-pervasive dangers. As we navigate through the world, we encounter many threats. Historically, these have often been physical, leading our ancestors to carry […]

Marriage, Relationships, and The Greenhouse Analogy

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In this world, where societal influences often taint the view of marriage and relationships, there is a pressing need to clarify what truly builds a healthy and strong bond between partners. Despite the wealth of knowledge provided by psychologists and theorists, they sometimes fall short in comparison to insights gained from those who receive revelation […]

Letters to God

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In our fast-paced world, the pursuit of self-discovery and understanding our faith can be a journey for people of all ages. Join us as we delve into the significance of seeking answers through personal revelation, understanding God’s perspective on various topics, and the transformative practice of connecting with God through writing.

Embracing Imperfections and Fostering Compassion in Marriage 

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As a marriage repair specialist, I often find myself in sessions with couples who feel stuck in a loop of conflict and misunderstanding. These can be particularly challenging times for spouses who are navigating the complexities of parenthood. In recent sessions with one such couple, the insights gleaned became clear: In order to foster a […]

Overriding Fear in Marriage Repair

woman who looks like she's going crazy with negative thoughts!

The struggle with intrusive thoughts can be a significant roadblock in the intricate world of relationships. Many of us, grounded in faith, understand these uninvited, often negative thoughts as attacks from Satan, meant to distort our perception and disrupt our decision-making process. These spiritual attacks can push us to dwell on worst-case scenarios and overlook […]

Harnessing Warrior Chemistry: An Innovative Strategy Against Satanic Intrusive Thoughts

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In a world where the battlefield has largely shifted from the physical to the psychological, intrusive thoughts—unwelcome, involuntary, and often distressing—pose a significant threat to our peace of mind. If you’re on a journey towards self-mastery, as described in “Peak” by Anders Ericsson and “Atomic Habits” by James Clear, these intrusive thoughts can interfere with […]

Betrayal Trauma 101

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If you are reading this, you are probably a wife who has just discovered her husband’s sexual disloyalty and she has been told she is experiencing Betrayal Trauma. I sadly welcome you to our support and training services. Perhaps you would like a simple introduction on a scientific level of what your brain and body […]

Make a Record of Your Proceedings and Know the Record is True

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[The following is an excerpt from the conversations we have in the Spiritual Psychology Masterclass.  I invite you to join us each week.]  I found another teaching point at the end of the first verse in 1 Nephi.  “I make a record of my proceedings”. He repeats the phrase two more times.  In verse two, […]

Using “The Pattern for Growth” to Fine-tune the Agile Checklist for Becoming Better Husbands

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How can we apply organizational principles and the wisdom of living prophets to become better spouses?  This article explores this concept, blending the principles from Atul Gawande’s “The Checklist Manifesto,” Agile project management methodology, and the “Pattern for Growth” as provided by our faith in an effort to become better Presiding Husbands. **Simplicity in Complexity** Navigating the […]

8 Steps to Mastering the Art of Presiding in Marriage

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Once, I thought that marriage was about dividing responsibilities and tasks, but I realized that approach was leading to a cohabitation-style marriage. We lived together, but we weren’t harmoniously linked as a couple.  Through studying hundreds of couples and prayerfully considering the prophets’ teachings, I have discovered a more harmonious approach to marriage. The following […]

Embracing the Role of an Effective Presider

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Thoughts you might add to your Personal Identity Statement As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we recognize the sacred role of a presider in our families. We strive to lead with love, compassion, and an understanding heart, cultivating an environment of unity and growth. In the world of business and […]