A Presiding Tool: Initiating Verbal Intimacy

man and woman talking, verbal intimacy

Some elements of relationship improvement and healing seem very difficult, but are actually very simple. Working on the first level of the 5 Intimacies, Verbal Intimacy, is a must. Try this some time… Approach your wife on just about any subject and ask, “What is your opinion on….?” Easy, right? The actually act of starting […]

The 4 Square Listening Tool

The 4 Square Listening Tool

How to use it and why it works *You can also watch Maurice explain this topic in a video training HERE. Many of us find ourselves in conversations where we start to feel “flooded”. This term is used to describe a complex psycho-biochemical experience where our ability to listen with an open mind is decreased […]

Sex as a Reward?

woman upset with man

A common question asked of me in my work with women who have experienced betrayal trauma or sexual trauma is something like, “What role is sexuality supposed to play in a healthy relationship?”  

Marital Repair Case Study #1

storm on radar

(The words of the wife are in italics.) I was able to have another chat with my husband last night where I calmly explained my distance of late is due to  working through pain and past hurts.   I explained that, just like when you get a serious burn, in the moment it hurts but […]

A Warrior’s Prayer

warrior fighing

I am now learning, that for quite some time, men have been praying the way farmers pray instead of the way warriors need to pray. Here is a warrior’s prayer.

A Warrior’s Story: From Hopeless to Hero!

man in super hero cape

My story to happiness. I have had this problem for over 7 years.  I have tried very hard to beat this giant, but I simply did not have the skills to beat it forever.  I even conquered it for half a year before.  Then Satan attacked me and I felt as though I was overwhelmed […]

Sons of Helaman: Eternal Warriors

Sons of Helaman

Parents, Church Leaders, Young Warriors:   The urgency to provide effecting training for the war against sexual addiction motivates us to send you this letter.   We hope this information will help with what Elder Holland encouraged in the October 2013 General Conference, “seek the advice of reputable people with certified training, professional skills and […]

Parenting: Why do kids turn out the way they do?

Inner City street

I agonized over this questions for some time, especially when I compared two extreme cases. While I was a missionary in inner-city Detroit, I met a young man that defied all logic.  He was about 13 years old.  He lived with his alcoholic grandmother, and nobody really knew what happened to his parents. He had […]

How to Win Level 2: Mood Battles

How to Win Level 2: Mood Battles

[Review Chemical Scale for background on the different levels if they are unfamiliar to you.] Level 2 Mood Battles are usually very subtle, especially for men because we are not usually accustomed to paying attention to our feelings/moods. We were built to be thinkers (Level 3) and doers (Level 5).  Satan knows this, so he […]

Negative Self-Talk: Seeds of Weeds

pulling the weeds of negative self-talk

I don’t believe in “negative self-talk!” It has actually turned into one of the central focuses of my work over the past 20 years.  Asking questions like, “When is it him, and when is it me?”