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The Worth of a Woman

One topic of concern among the women I have talked to is not feeling their worth. Women often determine their worth by comparing themselves to retouched pictures in magazines, on billboards, television, and the perfect

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Sex as a Reward?

A common question asked of me in my work with women who have experienced betrayal trauma or sexual trauma is something like, “What role is sexuality supposed to play in a healthy relationship?”  

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Marital Repair Case Study #1

(The words of the wife are in italics.) I was able to have another chat with my husband last night where I calmly explained my distance of late is due to  working through pain and

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A Warrior’s Prayer

I am now learning, that for quite some time, men have been praying the way farmers pray instead of the way warriors need to pray. Here is a warrior’s prayer.

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Sons of Helaman

Sons of Helaman: Eternal Warriors

Parents, Church Leaders, Young Warriors:   The urgency to provide effecting training for the war against sexual addiction motivates us to send you this letter.   We hope this information will help with what Elder

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How to Win Level 2: Mood Battles

[Review Chemical Scale for background on the different levels if they are unfamiliar to you.] Level 2 Mood Battles are usually very subtle, especially for men because we are not usually accustomed to paying attention

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Negative Self-Talk: Seeds of Weeds

I don’t believe in “negative self-talk!” It has actually turned into one of the central focuses of my work over the past 20 years.  Asking questions like, “When is it him, and when is it me?”

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