Reverence for your Partner’s Growth

In the aftermath of a collapsed marriage, the process of rebuilding can seem daunting. As we embark on the journey of reconnecting with our spouse, it is essential to focus on laying the solid groundwork of each individual before constructing the bridge that will bridge the gap between the partners. Today, let us closely examine […]

Prayer as a Compass: Strengthening Relationships through Spiritual Guidance

Gentlemen, let me share with you a story from my life that truly surprised me and illuminated my understanding of prayer in relationships. You see, I grew up in a family of nine boys, and it was routine for each of us to take turns leading the family in prayer. When I got married, I […]

Complementary Memory Mechanisms in Men and Women

We should consider why men and women perceive and remember experiences differently from a scientific standpoint, instead of resorting to simple stereotypes or casual banter. From a historical, evolutionary and creationistic perspective, tracing back to prehistoric times, men were typically in roles that required them to protect and provide. These responsibilities often put them in […]

What is Betrayal Trauma? How does it impact me?

Betrayal trauma refers to the emotional and psychological distress experienced when an individual’s trust is broken by someone they are close to, typically in the context of a committed relationship. This trauma can occur in various forms, such as infidelity or sexual disloyalty. In committed relationships, trust forms the foundation for emotional intimacy, security, and […]

Resilience in Difficult Relationships

Understanding the Phases of Connection, Disconnection, and Rejuvenation Introduction: Relationships can be complex, and couples often find themselves at a point where they enter an unwanted phase of cohabitation. This is a critical juncture where many couples lose motivation and struggle to maintain their connection. However, recognizing the importance of continual effort and seeking personal […]

How to Cultivate Patience and Perseverance in Your Relationships

As humans, we are wired for instant gratification. We want what we want, and we want it now. But when it comes to relationships, especially with our significant others, we need to learn patience and perseverance. Imagine being a farmer who plants a seed that takes six months to sprout. You tend to the field, […]

Torment

As we strive to strengthen ourselves and our marriages, it is important to remember that Satan is always watching and waiting for an opportunity to strike. In 1 Peter 5:8, it says, “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” We must […]

Agreeing to Disagree is Pretty Much Saying…

Agreeing to disagree is a false notion. It is sweeping all those little issues under the rug, but over time someone moves that rug and we still have to deal with it.

Celestial Orientation

Several years ago, I was pondering what it must be like for a woman, who thought she was in a good and stable marriage, to discover her husband has been participating in significant sexual misbehaviors that are traumatizing to the marriage. I had recently stood on the east bank of the Mississippi river at […]

5 Steps to Rebuilding Trust after a Relationship has been Traumatized

When a relationship experiences trauma, it is like an airplane crash. The one who does the betraying is like the pilot and engineer of the plane, and the injured party is like the passenger.

Working on Emotional Intimacy – Discussing the Past

Emotional Intimacy is one of the hardest phases of the entire process of rebuilding and repairing your marriage. You will need to be able to skillfully keep the Spirit present during conversations, and skillfully retreat and regroup if things start to fall apart.