Complementary Memory Mechanisms in Men and Women

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We should consider why men and women perceive and remember experiences differently from a scientific standpoint, instead of resorting to simple stereotypes or casual banter.  From a historical, evolutionary and creationistic perspective, tracing back to prehistoric times, men were typically in roles that required them to protect and provide. These responsibilities often put them in […]

What is Betrayal Trauma?  How does it impact me?

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Betrayal trauma refers to the emotional and psychological distress experienced when an individual’s trust is broken by someone they are close to, typically in the context of a committed relationship. This trauma can occur in various forms, such as infidelity or sexual disloyalty. In committed relationships, trust forms the foundation for emotional intimacy, security, and […]

Resilience in Difficult Relationships

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Understanding the Phases of Connection, Disconnection, and Rejuvenation Introduction: Relationships can be complex, and couples often find themselves at a point where they enter an unwanted phase of cohabitation. This is a critical juncture where many couples lose motivation and struggle to maintain their connection. However, recognizing the importance of continual effort and seeking personal […]

How to Cultivate Patience and Perseverance in Your Relationships

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As humans, we are wired for instant gratification. We want what we want, and we want it now. But when it comes to relationships, especially with our significant others, we need to learn patience and perseverance. Imagine being a farmer who plants a seed that takes six months to sprout. You tend to the field, […]

Torment

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As we strive to strengthen ourselves and our marriages, it is important to remember that Satan is always watching and waiting for an opportunity to strike. In 1 Peter 5:8, it says, “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” We must […]

Celestial Orientation

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Several years ago, I was pondering what it must be like for a woman, who thought she was in a good and stable marriage, to discover her husband has been participating in significant sexual misbehaviors that are traumatizing to the marriage.   I had recently stood on the east bank of the Mississippi river at […]

Working on Emotional Intimacy – Discussing the Past

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Emotional Intimacy is one of the hardest phases of the entire process of rebuilding and repairing your marriage. You will need to be able to skillfully keep the Spirit present during conversations, and skillfully retreat and regroup if things start to fall apart.

Teaching Children about Healthy Intimacy

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Parents play an integral part in establishing healthy attachment and developing balanced intimacy for children. Here are three guidelines to help teach children. Parents play an integral part in establishing healthy attachment and developing balanced intimacy for our children. According to Walker, Busby, Lovett and Carol, Experts on human intimacy, balanced intimacy is comprised of […]

“Awake and Arise”

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I have met and talked to many who have felt they have something important to do, but can’t quite figure out what it is, or how to go about doing it.