“Rejoice greatly in all assortments of trials, which are necessary to prove your faith, even as fire tests the genuineness of gold; so your faith, more precious than gold, must be tested in many trials; then you will receive praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ appears again.” (1 Peter 1:6-7)

God sent us to earth to be proven, tempted, tried, and challenged; and He wants us to find joy in the process (see Abraham 3:25; 2 Nephi 2:25 and James 1:2-4). Joseph Smith taught that Jesus Christ “was exposed to more powerful contradictions than any man can be.” If essential for the Lord to experience contradictions, why should I be spared? In my view, few situations are more contradictory than being both gay and a Latter-day Saint. It cost me a lifetime of soul trauma to reach the point where I can say, “I am proud to be a gay son of God!”

At sixty, I see being gay as a profound blessing. While in the depths of finding myself, God taught me painful lessons, which personally I could not have learned in other ways. For me, it was God’s way of leading me to find Him. Life’s biggest challenges bring the most growth and lead to its greatest blessings. Being gay is real, but has become just a footnote to who I am and in who I will become.

As a life coach, I work online with clients of any orientation who want to live their personal values, rather than act on inclinations contrary to moral beliefs. I am fully committed to self determination for everyone as they map their life course and face its detours. I also support parents adjusting to choices made by children. I would love to support you in your journey of discovery and understanding.

I have worked with men recovering from wounds of life for more than four decades. I have been personally trained by Maurice Harker and the leaders of the Sons of Helaman and Men of Moroni programs in Eternal Warrior principles and have been certified by them as a Personal Warrior Trainer and Eternal Warriors coach.

In recent years, I have been involved with four organizations that have taught me to claim the power of my life, while relying on God to teach me to bring it about. I bring the strength and compassion these experiential programs have taught me into how I support others as a life coach. These organizations are, Discover Identity, a group that works to “empower men and women of faith, with opportunities to discover and create their divine identity.”

I have also been involved with The ManKind Project, which “empowers men to missions of service, supporting men to make a difference in the lives of others,” and with Brothers Road, which supports men with “feelings or attractions that are out of alignment with a man’s faith, values, morals, self-identity or life goals.” I have been trained for and staffed the experiential weekends of all three organizations. The fourth involvement has been the personal and sacred experience of serving as an Ordinance Worker at the Bountiful Temple of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, which has profoundly affected who I am in ways that surprised me.

I share profound love with my wife of thirty-plus years, Nancy, who supplies me constant support. Together, we survived raising three terminally-unique children, and delight in being the grandparents of four.

If you would like a complimentary 50-minute online exploratory session to assess your needs, click the “Schedule Consultation” link to set up an appointment.

Coaching Rate: Mentoring is $90 for a 50-minute session.