Gingerbread Man Parable (Anger/Pain Management)

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Randy Hyde, PhD introduced me to an explanation of anger when I was in residency at Preferred Family Services in 1993. Over 20 years in community mental health, I used, revised, and added concepts to this model to fit my own therapy style. I needed a way to talk to kids about anger that was […]

Sorting of Incoming Ideas: Insights from the French Fry Machine Metaphor

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We have been discussing the origin of ideas, thoughts, and information that come into our minds. I have met many who struggle with understanding why it is vital to become skilled at pre-sorting, or discerning the substance and origin of these ideas before processing them.  The following metaphor has helped many to understand the concept […]

Rebuilding Trust in a Traumatized Relationship: A Spiritual and Psychological Approach

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In any relationship, trust forms the bedrock of emotional intimacy and resilience. However, life sometimes throws experiences at us that damage this critical foundation, leading to a traumatized relationship. Rebuilding trust in such circumstances may appear an insurmountable task, but it isn’t impossible. Through a blend of spiritual and psychological tools, couples can reforge their […]

Triggers vs Alarms

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In modern psychology, the term “triggers” refers to stimuli or events that evoke strong emotional or behavioral reactions in individuals, often associated with past traumatic experiences or deeply ingrained associations.

The Interdependent Symphony of Marriage

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In the symphony of marriage, 1 Corinthians 11:11, rooted in the Corinthian context, and principles from LDS doctrine harmonize with 1 Corinthians 12 to illuminate the profound interdependency of husbands and wives.

Circus Mirrors and Feedback Sessions

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In a world where we are often judged by others and where we may inadvertently judge ourselves based on the opinions of those around us, it is important to remember that the only true and accurate reflection of our worth comes from a higher power. The phrase, “Well done my good and faithful servant,” highlights […]

Warrior Chemistry: A Profound and Innovative Approach to Self-Mastery

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In an age where physical threats have been largely replaced by psychological ones, a novel concept known as “Warrior Chemistry” has emerged as a unique psychological strategy to counter these unseen, yet ever-pervasive dangers. As we navigate through the world, we encounter many threats. Historically, these have often been physical, leading our ancestors to carry […]

Embracing Imperfections and Fostering Compassion in Marriage 

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As a marriage repair specialist, I often find myself in sessions with couples who feel stuck in a loop of conflict and misunderstanding. These can be particularly challenging times for spouses who are navigating the complexities of parenthood. In recent sessions with one such couple, the insights gleaned became clear: In order to foster a […]

Overriding Fear in Marriage Repair

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The struggle with intrusive thoughts can be a significant roadblock in the intricate world of relationships. Many of us, grounded in faith, understand these uninvited, often negative thoughts as attacks from Satan, meant to distort our perception and disrupt our decision-making process. These spiritual attacks can push us to dwell on worst-case scenarios and overlook […]

Make a Record of Your Proceedings and Know the Record is True

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[The following is an excerpt from the conversations we have in the Spiritual Psychology Masterclass.  I invite you to join us each week.]  I found another teaching point at the end of the first verse in 1 Nephi.  “I make a record of my proceedings”. He repeats the phrase two more times.  In verse two, […]

8 Steps to Mastering the Art of Presiding in Marriage

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Once, I thought that marriage was about dividing responsibilities and tasks, but I realized that approach was leading to a cohabitation-style marriage. We lived together, but we weren’t harmoniously linked as a couple.  Through studying hundreds of couples and prayerfully considering the prophets’ teachings, I have discovered a more harmonious approach to marriage. The following […]

Embracing the Role of an Effective Presider

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Thoughts you might add to your Personal Identity Statement As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we recognize the sacred role of a presider in our families. We strive to lead with love, compassion, and an understanding heart, cultivating an environment of unity and growth. In the world of business and […]

Unlocking Your Potential: A Comprehensive Guide to Self-Improvement

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Embarking on a journey of self-improvement is a powerful step towards personal growth and fulfillment. Today we will delve into various strategies and insights aimed at unlocking your potential and helping you become the best version of yourself. From establishing a strong foundation to cultivating a growth mindset, we’ll explore practical techniques and timeless principles […]

Shouldn’t you be able to rely on people? What if others are not meeting your needs?

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In today’s society, a prevailing theme – evolving gradually over time – implies that God’s existence is doubtful. Many, if not most, have tried wrestling with psychological challenges without experiencing a connection with a Divine Being, a Holy Ghost, or Christ for guidance, healing and support. This is an unfortunate digression from the original meaning […]