Sorting of Incoming Ideas: Insights from the French Fry Machine Metaphor

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We have been discussing the origin of ideas, thoughts, and information that come into our minds. I have met many who struggle with understanding why it is vital to become skilled at pre-sorting, or discerning the substance and origin of these ideas before processing them.  The following metaphor has helped many to understand the concept […]

Rebuilding Trust in a Traumatized Relationship: A Spiritual and Psychological Approach

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In any relationship, trust forms the bedrock of emotional intimacy and resilience. However, life sometimes throws experiences at us that damage this critical foundation, leading to a traumatized relationship. Rebuilding trust in such circumstances may appear an insurmountable task, but it isn’t impossible. Through a blend of spiritual and psychological tools, couples can reforge their […]

Triggers vs Alarms

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In modern psychology, the term “triggers” refers to stimuli or events that evoke strong emotional or behavioral reactions in individuals, often associated with past traumatic experiences or deeply ingrained associations.

The Interdependent Symphony of Marriage

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In the symphony of marriage, 1 Corinthians 11:11, rooted in the Corinthian context, and principles from LDS doctrine harmonize with 1 Corinthians 12 to illuminate the profound interdependency of husbands and wives.

Marriage, Relationships, and The Greenhouse Analogy

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In this world, where societal influences often taint the view of marriage and relationships, there is a pressing need to clarify what truly builds a healthy and strong bond between partners. Despite the wealth of knowledge provided by psychologists and theorists, they sometimes fall short in comparison to insights gained from those who receive revelation […]

Embracing Imperfections and Fostering Compassion in Marriage 

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As a marriage repair specialist, I often find myself in sessions with couples who feel stuck in a loop of conflict and misunderstanding. These can be particularly challenging times for spouses who are navigating the complexities of parenthood. In recent sessions with one such couple, the insights gleaned became clear: In order to foster a […]

Overriding Fear in Marriage Repair

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The struggle with intrusive thoughts can be a significant roadblock in the intricate world of relationships. Many of us, grounded in faith, understand these uninvited, often negative thoughts as attacks from Satan, meant to distort our perception and disrupt our decision-making process. These spiritual attacks can push us to dwell on worst-case scenarios and overlook […]

Using “The Pattern for Growth” to Fine-tune the Agile Checklist for Becoming Better Husbands

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How can we apply organizational principles and the wisdom of living prophets to become better spouses?  This article explores this concept, blending the principles from Atul Gawande’s “The Checklist Manifesto,” Agile project management methodology, and the “Pattern for Growth” as provided by our faith in an effort to become better Presiding Husbands. **Simplicity in Complexity** Navigating the […]

8 Steps to Mastering the Art of Presiding in Marriage

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Once, I thought that marriage was about dividing responsibilities and tasks, but I realized that approach was leading to a cohabitation-style marriage. We lived together, but we weren’t harmoniously linked as a couple.  Through studying hundreds of couples and prayerfully considering the prophets’ teachings, I have discovered a more harmonious approach to marriage. The following […]

God as the Blacksmith: Navigating the Forge of Marriage Through Divine Guidance

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Marriage is a divine institution that brings together two souls who vow to support and uplift each other. While the journey is inherently rewarding, it also presents its fair share of challenges. It’s here that we can lean into our faith and draw upon God’s wisdom for guidance. We can conceptualize this process using a […]

Reverence for your Partner’s Growth

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In the aftermath of a collapsed marriage, the process of rebuilding can seem daunting. As we embark on the journey of reconnecting with our spouse, it is essential to focus on laying the solid groundwork of each individual before constructing the bridge that will bridge the gap between the partners. Today, let us closely examine […]

Taming Your Dangerous Emotions and Reclaiming Your Power

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Do you ever feel like a doormat, manipulated, or powerless in your relationship? Perhaps you’ve experienced moments of frustration, shame, or the urge to control your partner. This article will guide you through understanding your emotional triggers and how to connect with your inner strength by tapping into divine wisdom. 1. Identifying your dangerous emotions: […]

How to Cultivate Patience and Perseverance in Your Relationships

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As humans, we are wired for instant gratification. We want what we want, and we want it now. But when it comes to relationships, especially with our significant others, we need to learn patience and perseverance. Imagine being a farmer who plants a seed that takes six months to sprout. You tend to the field, […]

Torment

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As we strive to strengthen ourselves and our marriages, it is important to remember that Satan is always watching and waiting for an opportunity to strike. In 1 Peter 5:8, it says, “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” We must […]