Celestial Orientation

compass pointing north

Several years ago, I was pondering what it must be like for a woman, who thought she was in a good and stable marriage, to discover her husband has been participating in significant sexual misbehaviors that are traumatizing to the marriage.   I had recently stood on the east bank of the Mississippi river at […]

Working on Emotional Intimacy – Discussing the Past

Husband and Wife together

Emotional Intimacy is one of the hardest phases of the entire process of rebuilding and repairing your marriage. You will need to be able to skillfully keep the Spirit present during conversations, and skillfully retreat and regroup if things start to fall apart.

Sex as a Reward?

woman upset with man

A common question asked of me in my work with women who have experienced betrayal trauma or sexual trauma is something like, “What role is sexuality supposed to play in a healthy relationship?”  

Marital Repair Case Study #1

storm on radar

(The words of the wife are in italics.) I was able to have another chat with my husband last night where I calmly explained my distance of late is due to  working through pain and past hurts.   I explained that, just like when you get a serious burn, in the moment it hurts but […]

The Line-Upon-Line Relapse Prevention Intervention For Couples

Sad couple during a relapse

How am I supposed to handle it when my husband  has a “lost battle”?   (A “lost battle” is a term used in the Men of Moroni as well as other recovery programs within Life Changing Services. For this article, a battle is “lost” when the husband chooses to engage in, or act with behaviors […]