Gingerbread Man Parable (Anger/Pain Management)

gingerbread man cookie cutter

Randy Hyde, PhD introduced me to an explanation of anger when I was in residency at Preferred Family Services in 1993. Over 20 years in community mental health, I used, revised, and added concepts to this model to fit my own therapy style. I needed a way to talk to kids about anger that was […]

A Letter to My Son

man writing letter to his son

Dear Son, I hope this letter finds you in good spirits. First and foremost, I want you to always remember your divine identity in the grand tapestry of God’s plan.  Our journey on this earth is guided by divine teachings, and as you navigate life’s paths, it’s crucial to hold fast to the principles that […]

Embracing Imperfections and Fostering Compassion in Marriage 

man and woman talking on bed

As a marriage repair specialist, I often find myself in sessions with couples who feel stuck in a loop of conflict and misunderstanding. These can be particularly challenging times for spouses who are navigating the complexities of parenthood. In recent sessions with one such couple, the insights gleaned became clear: In order to foster a […]

Wheel Thrown Pottery: A Parable

making a vase with wheel thrown pottery

Once upon a time in a quaint town lived a young, eager man named Parker. An ardent believer in his capabilities, Parker decided to attend a pottery class alongside his loving mother. Intrigued by the art he’d only ever seen in movies, he thought he already had the knowledge he needed. When the class commenced, […]

Building Emotional Intelligence Part 3

words emotional intelligence in circle around other things like stress, management, relationships

(Read Part 1 and Part 2) How then do we take all that we know about emotion and properly utilize emotions to make informed decisions? Well that is somewhat a trick question as emotions should rarely form the basis for making decisions. Let me explain. In Stephen W. Owen’s talk entitled “Be Faithful, Not Faithless” […]

The Younger Generation

group of teenage boys helping one who is depressed about something

“They’ll never make it in the world”, “they are too soft”, “they don’t need more love they need to be disciplined”, “they don’t know the value of true hard work”, etc. How often do we hear these kinds of statements in reference to the younger generations of today? How often do we find ourselves believing […]

Dirt in the Eyes: A Christlike Remedy

blind man walking on street

One of my favorite Bible stories is when Christ heals the blind man by the pool. I hope we can all take the time to recognize the symbolism this story has within the journey of self-mastery.

Parable of Spilled Milk

spilled milk on counter

Spilled Milk: Atonement Analogy One day, when my daughter was about 4 or 5 years old, she wanted to have a “big girl” moment. She was wearing her cute little dance recital dress from last year at the time, so when she climbed up onto the kitchen counter, her red tutu stuck out so cute! […]

4 Simple Ways to Stay Motivated During Down Times

man running in the rain

One of the hardest things to do is to stay motivated during down times or in the off season.  I know because it is one of my biggest challenges. So, here are 4 simple ways to keep your fire burning: Take a break from whatever sport you compete in.  “Absence makes the heart grow stronger.” […]

Teaching Children about Healthy Intimacy

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Parents play an integral part in establishing healthy attachment and developing balanced intimacy for children. Here are three guidelines to help teach children. Parents play an integral part in establishing healthy attachment and developing balanced intimacy for our children. According to Walker, Busby, Lovett and Carol, Experts on human intimacy, balanced intimacy is comprised of […]

Parenting: Why do kids turn out the way they do?

Inner City street

I agonized over this questions for some time, especially when I compared two extreme cases. While I was a missionary in inner-city Detroit, I met a young man that defied all logic.  He was about 13 years old.  He lived with his alcoholic grandmother, and nobody really knew what happened to his parents. He had […]