Working on Emotional Intimacy – Discussing the Past

Husband and Wife together

Emotional Intimacy is one of the hardest phases of the entire process of rebuilding and repairing your marriage. You will need to be able to skillfully keep the Spirit present during conversations, and skillfully retreat and regroup if things start to fall apart.

A Presiding Tool: Initiating Verbal Intimacy

man and woman talking, verbal intimacy

Some elements of relationship improvement and healing seem very difficult, but are actually very simple. Working on the first level of the 5 Intimacies, Verbal Intimacy, is a must. Try this some time… Approach your wife on just about any subject and ask, “What is your opinion on….?” Easy, right? The actually act of starting […]

The 4 Square Listening Tool

The 4 Square Listening Tool

How to use it and why it works *You can also watch Maurice explain this topic in a video training HERE. Many of us find ourselves in conversations where we start to feel “flooded”. This term is used to describe a complex psycho-biochemical experience where our ability to listen with an open mind is decreased […]

Don’t Bicker, Counsel

Don’t Bicker, Counsel

“You bring that up every time we talk about this. That’s stupid and we are not writing that down, I told you that already!” – A man who isn’t creating safety for his wife. My wife and I decided we wanted to sit down and write down our reason why we were moving forward with […]

Sex as a Reward?

woman upset with man

A common question asked of me in my work with women who have experienced betrayal trauma or sexual trauma is something like, “What role is sexuality supposed to play in a healthy relationship?”  

Marital Repair Case Study #1

storm on radar

(The words of the wife are in italics.) I was able to have another chat with my husband last night where I calmly explained my distance of late is due to  working through pain and past hurts.   I explained that, just like when you get a serious burn, in the moment it hurts but […]

The Line-Upon-Line Relapse Prevention Intervention For Couples

Sad couple during a relapse

How am I supposed to handle it when my husband  has a “lost battle”?   (A “lost battle” is a term used in the Men of Moroni as well as other recovery programs within Life Changing Services. For this article, a battle is “lost” when the husband chooses to engage in, or act with behaviors […]

A Few Good Men – Repairing Broken Marriages

Man in a Blue Shirt

I was thinking this morning about the men I have been working with who are getting it right. These are very brave and dedicated men who are willing to discover their own shortcomings.