Triggers vs Alarms

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In modern psychology, the term “triggers” refers to stimuli or events that evoke strong emotional or behavioral reactions in individuals, often associated with past traumatic experiences or deeply ingrained associations.

Betrayal Trauma 101

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If you are reading this, you are probably a wife who has just discovered her husband’s sexual disloyalty and she has been told she is experiencing Betrayal Trauma. I sadly welcome you to our support and training services. Perhaps you would like a simple introduction on a scientific level of what your brain and body […]

Using “The Pattern for Growth” to Fine-tune the Agile Checklist for Becoming Better Husbands

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How can we apply organizational principles and the wisdom of living prophets to become better spouses?  This article explores this concept, blending the principles from Atul Gawande’s “The Checklist Manifesto,” Agile project management methodology, and the “Pattern for Growth” as provided by our faith in an effort to become better Presiding Husbands. **Simplicity in Complexity** Navigating the […]

Complementary Memory Mechanisms in Men and Women

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We should consider why men and women perceive and remember experiences differently from a scientific standpoint, instead of resorting to simple stereotypes or casual banter.  From a historical, evolutionary and creationistic perspective, tracing back to prehistoric times, men were typically in roles that required them to protect and provide. These responsibilities often put them in […]

Celestial Orientation

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Several years ago, I was pondering what it must be like for a woman, who thought she was in a good and stable marriage, to discover her husband has been participating in significant sexual misbehaviors that are traumatizing to the marriage.   I had recently stood on the east bank of the Mississippi river at […]

The P.I.E.S.S. of Self-Care

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What is self care? Self care includes areas of physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual and social. The best self care is to live life in a way that doesn’t leave you depleted.

“Awake and Arise”

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I have met and talked to many who have felt they have something important to do, but can’t quite figure out what it is, or how to go about doing it.