Our Support System

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As we are approaching some of the biggest games of the year, I wanted to take a few minutes and discuss our teams when dealing with sexual addiction. I want to point out some pitfalls and explain some of the roles when identifying our team. On a team there are many different roles that are […]

Sorting of Incoming Ideas: Insights from the French Fry Machine Metaphor

French Fries with salt

We have been discussing the origin of ideas, thoughts, and information that come into our minds. I have met many who struggle with understanding why it is vital to become skilled at pre-sorting, or discerning the substance and origin of these ideas before processing them.  The following metaphor has helped many to understand the concept […]

Rebuilding Trust in a Traumatized Relationship: A Spiritual and Psychological Approach

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In any relationship, trust forms the bedrock of emotional intimacy and resilience. However, life sometimes throws experiences at us that damage this critical foundation, leading to a traumatized relationship. Rebuilding trust in such circumstances may appear an insurmountable task, but it isn’t impossible. Through a blend of spiritual and psychological tools, couples can reforge their […]

The Power of Anchors, Habits, and Routines: A Path to Happiness and Calm

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In today’s fast-paced world, finding joy, happiness, and calm is essential. I want to explore a concept that we often overlook but is vital in our daily lives: the power of anchors, habits, and routines. Recently, I touched upon images that might bring a smile or contentment, such as family gatherings, sunsets or pictures of […]

Triggers vs Alarms

woman feeling sad as she is triggered by something

In modern psychology, the term “triggers” refers to stimuli or events that evoke strong emotional or behavioral reactions in individuals, often associated with past traumatic experiences or deeply ingrained associations.

The Interdependent Symphony of Marriage

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In the symphony of marriage, 1 Corinthians 11:11, rooted in the Corinthian context, and principles from LDS doctrine harmonize with 1 Corinthians 12 to illuminate the profound interdependency of husbands and wives.

Circus Mirrors and Feedback Sessions

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In a world where we are often judged by others and where we may inadvertently judge ourselves based on the opinions of those around us, it is important to remember that the only true and accurate reflection of our worth comes from a higher power. The phrase, “Well done my good and faithful servant,” highlights […]

Warrior Chemistry: A Profound and Innovative Approach to Self-Mastery

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In an age where physical threats have been largely replaced by psychological ones, a novel concept known as “Warrior Chemistry” has emerged as a unique psychological strategy to counter these unseen, yet ever-pervasive dangers. As we navigate through the world, we encounter many threats. Historically, these have often been physical, leading our ancestors to carry […]

Marriage, Relationships, and The Greenhouse Analogy

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In this world, where societal influences often taint the view of marriage and relationships, there is a pressing need to clarify what truly builds a healthy and strong bond between partners. Despite the wealth of knowledge provided by psychologists and theorists, they sometimes fall short in comparison to insights gained from those who receive revelation […]

Embracing Imperfections and Fostering Compassion in Marriage 

man and woman talking on bed

As a marriage repair specialist, I often find myself in sessions with couples who feel stuck in a loop of conflict and misunderstanding. These can be particularly challenging times for spouses who are navigating the complexities of parenthood. In recent sessions with one such couple, the insights gleaned became clear: In order to foster a […]

Overriding Fear in Marriage Repair

woman who looks like she's going crazy with negative thoughts!

The struggle with intrusive thoughts can be a significant roadblock in the intricate world of relationships. Many of us, grounded in faith, understand these uninvited, often negative thoughts as attacks from Satan, meant to distort our perception and disrupt our decision-making process. These spiritual attacks can push us to dwell on worst-case scenarios and overlook […]

Make a Record of Your Proceedings and Know the Record is True

mark-up of 1 Nephi Chapter 1

[The following is an excerpt from the conversations we have in the Spiritual Psychology Masterclass.  I invite you to join us each week.]  I found another teaching point at the end of the first verse in 1 Nephi.  “I make a record of my proceedings”. He repeats the phrase two more times.  In verse two, […]

Using “The Pattern for Growth” to Fine-tune the Agile Checklist for Becoming Better Husbands

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How can we apply organizational principles and the wisdom of living prophets to become better spouses?  This article explores this concept, blending the principles from Atul Gawande’s “The Checklist Manifesto,” Agile project management methodology, and the “Pattern for Growth” as provided by our faith in an effort to become better Presiding Husbands. **Simplicity in Complexity** Navigating the […]