Finding Peace in Christ
Elder D. Todd Christofferson said in this last General Conference, “What our Heavenly Father offers us is Himself and His Son, a close and enduring relationship with Them through the grace and mediation of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer.” (Our Relationship With God, April 2022) My life has been a pursuit of learning the order of […]
Building Emotional Intelligence Part 3
(Read Part 1 and Part 2) How then do we take all that we know about emotion and properly utilize emotions to make informed decisions? Well that is somewhat a trick question as emotions should rarely form the basis for making decisions. Let me explain. In Stephen W. Owen’s talk entitled “Be Faithful, Not Faithless” […]
Building Emotional Intelligence Part 2
(Read Part 1 HERE). After I have successfully narrowed down and identified my emotions; where do I go from there? How then do I effectively manage such emotions? While utilizing the emotion/feelings wheel may offer a simple formula toward managing emotions… I will introduce a few more tools that can be utilized. Our first tool […]
Budgeting, Your New Best Friend on the Road to Financial Freedom
When you hear the word budget what do you think of? Many people think of a big list of dos and don’ts that restrict how you spend your money. Well, if that is what you think of then you are doing it wrong. Budgeting is the best way for you to spend your money the […]
Agreeing to Disagree is Pretty Much Saying…
Agreeing to disagree is a false notion. It is sweeping all those little issues under the rug, but over time someone moves that rug and we still have to deal with it.
Celestial Orientation
Several years ago, I was pondering what it must be like for a woman, who thought she was in a good and stable marriage, to discover her husband has been participating in significant sexual misbehaviors that are traumatizing to the marriage. I had recently stood on the east bank of the Mississippi river at […]
5 Steps to Rebuilding Trust after a Relationship has been Traumatized
When a relationship experiences trauma, it is like an airplane crash. The one who does the betraying is like the pilot and engineer of the plane, and the injured party is like the passenger.
Working on Emotional Intimacy – Discussing the Past
Emotional Intimacy is one of the hardest phases of the entire process of rebuilding and repairing your marriage. You will need to be able to skillfully keep the Spirit present during conversations, and skillfully retreat and regroup if things start to fall apart.
“I give not because I have not, but if I had, I would give.”
One of the most telling indicators that a relationship is ready to make an attempt at Season 1: Courtship, is if both are healed enough and recovered enough to bring value into the relationship.
Marriage Repair and Applying the First Three of the 12 Steps
The following is just one of over 100 lessons taught in the Marriage Repair Workshop: The Lazarus Lectures – by Maurice W. Harker, CMHC and team.
What To Do When You Have an Inadequate Spouse
What to do when you are an inadequate spouse. What to do when you have an inadequate spouse. As I have experienced my personal agony of not being enough in many circumstances…
Grieving? Understand the Different Stages of Grief
The different stages of grief are normal aspects of loss but to the untrained can cause a spiral downward and even some pretty extreme judgment of self and others.
7 Things to Consider Before Accepting Pornography as Normal and Tolerable
The correlation (not causation) of the overuse of pornography to criminal behavior. As a therapist who worked with the sex offender/general population I would do generalized assessments of each prisoner.
A Presiding Tool: Initiating Verbal Intimacy
Some elements of relationship improvement and healing seem very difficult, but are actually very simple. Working on the first level of the 5 Intimacies, Verbal Intimacy, is a must. Try this some time… Approach your wife on just about any subject and ask, “What is your opinion on….?” Easy, right? The actually act of starting […]
The 4 Square Listening Tool
How to use it and why it works *You can also watch Maurice explain this topic in a video training HERE. Many of us find ourselves in conversations where we start to feel “flooded”. This term is used to describe a complex psycho-biochemical experience where our ability to listen with an open mind is decreased […]