Triggers vs Alarms

In modern psychology, the term “triggers” refers to stimuli or events that evoke strong emotional or behavioral reactions in individuals, often associated with past traumatic experiences or deeply ingrained associations.

Betrayal Trauma 101

If you are reading this, you are probably a wife who has just discovered her husband’s sexual disloyalty and she has been told she is experiencing Betrayal Trauma. I sadly welcome you to our support and training services. Perhaps you would like a simple introduction on a scientific level of what your brain and body […]

Celestial Orientation

Several years ago, I was pondering what it must be like for a woman, who thought she was in a good and stable marriage, to discover her husband has been participating in significant sexual misbehaviors that are traumatizing to the marriage. I had recently stood on the east bank of the Mississippi river at […]

The P.I.E.S.S. of Self-Care

What is self care? Self care includes areas of physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual and social. The best self care is to live life in a way that doesn’t leave you depleted.

The Worth of a Woman

One topic of concern among the women I have talked to is not feeling their worth. Women often determine their worth by comparing themselves to retouched pictures in magazines, on billboards, television, and the perfect lives posted on Facebook and Instagram. Comparing ourselves to fake and unrealistic lives will always cause us to feel less […]

Why Boundaries? a clarification by Maurice W. Harker, CMHC

Why do you need boundaries in your relationships? Ideally, and in a perfect world, relationships would be perfectly interdependent, synergistic, symbiotic, mutually edifying, cohesive, safe, intimate, and integrated.

Marital Repair Case Study #1

(The words of the wife are in italics.) I was able to have another chat with my husband last night where I calmly explained my distance of late is due to working through pain and past hurts. I explained that, just like when you get a serious burn, in the moment it hurts but […]

Supporting/Responding to a Spouse (Husband) Who has a Pornography/Sexual Addiction

Currently, in 99% of the cases I work with, it is the husband who has the sexual addiction, and the wife who is seeking understanding on how to respond. So, this article will clearly discuss how I recommend a wife respond to a husband’s pornography/sexual addiction.

“Letter to Husband” who blames his wife for his addiction

Nowhere in the principles you have learned from prophets past and present have you ever been told, “If you no longer find your wife to be attractive, you can now view the naked bodies of the other daughters of your Father in Heaven.”