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Seeds and Weeds: Attending to our Psychological Garden

Planting and Protecting your Psychological Garden

1. Personal Growth and Self-Reflection: Self-improvement often begins with introspection and personal revelation. Taking time to reflect on your goals, desires, and personal identity can lead to profound growth.

2. Planning and Time Management: Organizing your time and planning your activities are critical for achieving your self-improvement goals. It’s helpful to visualize your week and allocate time for different tasks, including self-care and rejuvenation.

3. The Concept of a ‘Personal Garden’: This metaphor symbolizes the cultivation of personal growth. Planting ‘seeds’ represents setting personal goals, and tending to your ‘garden’ is a process of working towards these goals.

4. Confronting Challenges: Self-improvement often involves stepping outside of your comfort zone and dealing with potential difficulties or setbacks. The process is likened to a ‘battle’ where you ‘declare war’ on the time slot to accomplish your goals.

5. Role of Relationships: The interactions and roles you play within your relationships (like being a parent or spouse) have an impact on your personal growth journey.

6. Understanding and Accepting Limitations: You can’t do everything. It’s important to recognize your limitations and find ways to manage tasks you can’t do personally, even if that means seeking divine help or ministering angels.

7. Principle of Intentional Neglect: This principle recognizes that there will always be more tasks than time available. Intentionally deciding what to let go can be a powerful way to focus on what’s most important.

8. Utilization of Resources: Using physical aids like diagrams, calendars, and symbolic items can support your self-improvement journey.


#1 Cultivating Personal Growth through Self-Reflection: A Journey of Faith

In our journey to become more Christlike, one of the essential aspects that we need to focus on is self-improvement. This pursuit is not about achieving perfection in an instant, but rather about continuous growth and development, much like a tree growing towards the light. This process often begins with introspection and personal revelation, pivotal elements that can lead to profound growth and transformation.

In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we are encouraged to seek personal revelation. President Russell M. Nelson has emphasized that in the “ongoing process of spiritual growth,” we should be active participants and not simply “passive observers.” This engagement comes by way of meaningful prayer, sincere repentance, studying the scriptures, and heartfelt reflection.

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One way we engage in self-reflection is by examining our roles and responsibilities, our ‘stewardships’ in life. These may include our duties as parents, siblings, friends, or members of our communities. Each of these roles provides us with opportunities to serve others and grow ourselves.

As we reflect upon these stewardships, we often uncover new ways to be better, to serve more effectively, and to align ourselves more fully with our divine potential.

As we engage in self-reflection, we might experience moments of personal revelation, recognizing our strengths and acknowledging areas that need improvement. These discoveries, whether they come as profound realizations or subtle nudges, can direct our personal improvement efforts and encourage us to make necessary changes.

As we liken this process to a teenage child reflecting on their day, planning out their schedule, or making discoveries about themselves, we can see that these seemingly small steps can lead to significant growth and maturation. In a similar way, as we actively seek personal revelation and apply our findings to our lives, we invite personal growth and progression.

Such revelations can also deepen our relationship with our Heavenly Parents. They rejoice, as earthly parents would, when we make strides in our personal and spiritual development. Just as a teenager’s tentative efforts to plan and organize might bring joy and pride to a parent’s heart, our Heavenly Parents look upon our efforts to improve with the same tender feelings of love and approval. 

Self-reflection, coupled with personal revelation, lays the foundation for effective self-improvement. It allows us to know ourselves better, recognize our divine potential, and understand our place in the eternal plan of happiness. It’s a crucial tool that, when wielded with faith, can bring about profound personal growth.

To all our fellow members striving to grow each day, remember this: the journey may be long and fraught with challenges, but as we engage in self-reflection and seek personal revelation, we take crucial steps in our progression towards becoming more Christlike. The road to self-improvement is one of faith, diligence, and perseverance, but with Heavenly guidance, we can navigate our path and grow from strength to strength.

#2 Cultivating Your Personal Time Garden: Harnessing the Power of Planning in Pursuit of Self-Improvement

The pathway to self-improvement often takes us through terrains of introspection, moments of revelation, and insights gained through the clarity of solitude. However, one of the most instrumental tools to aid us in our journey, and often overlooked, is the power of planning and effective time management. 

As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we’re all too familiar with the value of planting seeds of faith.

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But have we ever considered applying this metaphor to our daily lives? Picture your week as a fertile garden plot. Each day represents a new row ready for planting. By allocating time for different tasks throughout your week, you are effectively planting seeds that will soon blossom into fruitful trees of accomplishments.

Imagine the sense of achievement when every Monday at 6 am, you plant a seed of scripture study.

By Tuesday afternoon, you’ve planted a seed for service to a friend in need.

By Wednesday evening, a seed for quality family time takes root, and so it goes on. Including moments of self-care and rejuvenation—your nap time at midday, your hour of solitude—is essential.

These moments aren’t merely seeds; they are the vital water and sunshine nurturing your garden.

But it’s not all rosy. As in any garden, weeds and pests may thwart your growth. In our daily lives, these take the form of unexpected challenges or distractions. This is when our metaphorical garden becomes a battlefield. We declare war on our time slots, fighting for the victory of accomplished goals and a fulfilled life. 

Every Thursday at 8:30 pm, you’ve set aside time to read a book with your daughter. This is not just a time slot anymore, but a territory you’ve vowed to win for your family. You’ve set a date with your spouse on Saturday night at 7 pm. This is not just a time on your calendar anymore, but a fortress of love you’re determined to defend.

Remember, it’s not about waiting for life to happen, but taking initiative. We bring light to the world through our planned actions, not by waiting for darkness to come to us. Whether it’s visiting our ministering people or carving out time for self-reflection and personal development, we control our schedule. 

Recommit to your identity, mission, and purpose statements weekly. Ask yourself: Who am I? What am I all about? What is my big picture way of thinking? What do I care about in the grand scheme of things? Let the answers guide your weekly planning, and you’ll notice your life become more aligned with your divine purpose.

However, in our quest for self-improvement, remember that even the most meticulously planned garden has its limits. Embrace the reality that you can’t do it all. Your time, like your garden plot, is finite. You will have to decide which seeds to plant and which to forego. But this, too, is a divine principle. Our Heavenly Father has blessed us with limitations to help us prioritize and seek His aid in managing our lives.

Your time garden is yours to cultivate. Fill it with seeds that bring you joy, help you grow, and serve others. Water it with self-care, bathe it in sunlight of spiritual nourishment, and watch as your garden—and your life—blossoms into a masterpiece of divine design.

#3 Cultivating Personal Growth: The Concept of a Personal Garden

Imagine standing at the edge of a freshly tilled garden, its rich soil waiting patiently for the first seeds of the season. Each tiny kernel contains enormous potential, destined to grow into a blossoming plant under your tender care.

Much like this garden, each of us has an internal landscape that is ripe for personal growth. The seeds we choose to plant are our goals, and the care we give to these goals significantly influences our progress on the path of self-improvement.

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In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we are constantly encouraged to cultivate our personal gardens, to set worthy goals that align with our divine potential and work diligently to nurture these ambitions to fruition.

The metaphor of gardening lends itself perfectly to this process of personal growth, illustrating the importance of careful planning, patience, and consistent effort.

When we choose our seeds, or set our goals, we are prompted to turn to the Lord for guidance. Our Heavenly Father knows our potential and the divine plan He has for each of us.

As we pray for guidance and search the scriptures, we can identify the right seeds to plant in our personal gardens. This can range from improving our scripture study habits, serving more diligently in our callings, or fostering stronger family relationships.

After selecting our seeds, we prepare the soil of our hearts through sincere prayer and earnest desire to change and grow. We then plant these seeds of intention into the schedule of our lives, determining when and how we will nourish them. Each day, we tend to our personal gardens, dedicating time and effort to these carefully chosen goals. We water them with prayer, weed out distractions and discouragements, and provide the sunlight of faith and diligence. 

However, growth takes time. Just as a seed doesn’t sprout overnight, our goals often require patient nurturing before they bear fruit. At times, we might feel disheartened if our efforts don’t yield immediate results. During such moments, it’s vital to remember that our Heavenly Father’s time frame differs from ours. 

It’s also crucial to note that not every seed will sprout. Despite our best efforts, some of our goals may not come to fruition as we envisioned. When we experience such disappointments, it’s an opportunity to learn, reevaluate, and maybe even plant new seeds. We can find comfort in knowing that our worth is not determined by the success of our efforts but by our willingness to continue growing and trying.

By nurturing our personal gardens, we become active participants in our own growth and discipleship. We no longer are mere bystanders in our spiritual journey but gardeners tending to our spiritual growth with purpose and intentionality. In this nurturing process, we draw closer to our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ, whose sunlight guides our growth in the most divine of ways. 

As you stand at the edge of your personal garden, prayerfully consider the seeds you are planting. Cultivate them with faith, knowing that you are growing under the watchful care of our Heavenly Parents. Embrace this sacred opportunity to participate in your personal growth journey. And always remember, the Master Gardener is ever by your side, ready to guide and aid you in this hallowed endeavor of soul gardening.

#4 Overcoming Satan’s Influence in Pursuit of Self-Improvement

In the journey of self-improvement, we often encounter challenges that can hinder our progress and discourage our efforts. As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we believe that Satan actively works to disrupt our path to becoming our best selves. Understanding his tactics and learning how to overcome them is crucial in our quest for personal growth. In this article, we will explore the role Satan plays in attempting to disrupt our self-improvement endeavors and discuss strategies to counter his influence.

Recognizing Satanic Attacks:

As disciples of Christ, we should be aware that Satan seeks to convolute our thoughts, instill doubt, and discourage us from pursuing our goals and plans. He exploits our weaknesses and capitalizes on our vulnerabilities. By recognizing these satanic attacks for what they are, we can develop resilience and adopt strategies to counteract them.

Defying Satan through Self-Improvement:

Engaging in self-improvement is an act of defying Satan and bringing light into our lives. When we actively seek to become better individuals, we align ourselves with God’s plan and strengthen our connection with heaven. It is through the process of self-improvement that we invite divine guidance and assistance, enabling us to overcome the obstacles set by the adversary.

Seeking Divine Help:

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One of the most powerful tools in our arsenal against Satan is seeking divine help. As we involve Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ in our self-improvement efforts, we open ourselves to their influence and receive the strength and inspiration needed to press forward.

Through prayer, we can ask for guidance, wisdom, and the power to resist Satan’s attempts to deter us. Our Heavenly Parents want us to succeed and have provided ministering angels to help fill in the gaps when we face limitations.

Trusting in God’s Timing:

In the pursuit of self-improvement, it is important to remember that God works according to His own timing. We may have lofty aspirations and an extensive list of things we want to accomplish, but God knows our capacities and limitations. He blesses us with opportunities to grow at a pace that is manageable and tailored to our individual needs. Trusting in God’s timing allows us to surrender our worries and frustrations and focus on the progress we are making.

The Power of Resilience:

Satan’s influence may manifest in moments of self-doubt, discouragement, and feelings of inadequacy. However, we can counteract these negative emotions through resilience. By cultivating a resilient mindset, we recognize that setbacks and challenges are part of the journey. We learn from our mistakes, rely on the Atonement of Jesus Christ to overcome our weaknesses, and continue moving forward with determination and faith.

As we embark on the path of self-improvement, let us not underestimate the role Satan plays in attempting to disrupt our progress. Through awareness, reliance on divine help, trust in God’s timing, and the power of resilience, we can overcome his influence.

By actively engaging in self-improvement, we not only better ourselves but also align our will with God’s and become more capable of fulfilling our divine potential. May we be steadfast in our pursuit of personal growth, knowing that our Heavenly Parents are cheering us on and providing us with the tools to triumph over Satan’s attempts to derail us.

#5 The Role of Relationships in our Personal Journey of Self-Improvement

In the grand tapestry of our mortal existence, relationships play an indispensable role, shaping our experiences, values, and ultimately our self-improvement journey.

As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we believe in the eternal significance of relationships, whether they are familial, friendly, or amongst our broader faith community. It is within the crucible of these interactions that we find unique opportunities for growth and self-improvement.

Imagine the scenario where a teenager earnestly shares their plan for self-improvement with their parents. The dialogue that follows offers a wealth of opportunities for both parties to learn and grow. For the teenager, it’s an exercise in vulnerability, goal setting, and accountability. For the parent, it provides a chance to model support, encouragement, and faith in the potential of their child. 

Such interactions underscore the profound influence we have on one another. Our relationships, in essence, become a training ground for applying the gospel principles we study and cherish. It’s within these interpersonal connections that abstract concepts of love, patience, forgiveness, and service take on real, practical significance. 

Moreover, relationships also serve as mirrors, reflecting back to us our strengths, areas for growth, and sometimes, the aspects of our character that we might overlook. For instance, a spouse might gently point out that we’re neglecting self-care amidst our busy schedules, or a friend might encourage us to step out of our comfort zone and try something new.

man talking to his son

But navigating relationships isn’t always easy. Our roles as spouses, parents, children, and friends often involve a delicate balancing act. It may be tempting to prioritize others’ needs over our own or to sidestep the ‘stewardship’ we have over our relationships, all in the name of avoiding conflict or discomfort. 

However, our faith teaches us the value of stewardship – our divine obligation to care for and improve upon the responsibilities entrusted to us by Heavenly Father. This includes our relationships.

In the context of self-improvement, ‘declaring war’ on a time slot might mean setting aside regular, dedicated time for family or one-on-one time with a child, even when it might be challenging or inconvenient.

By being proactive and intentional in our relationships, we become more than passive participants in our own lives. We take up the mantle of active stewardship, approaching our relationships as essential components of our personal growth and self-improvement.

In conclusion, the LDS doctrine provides us with a powerful framework to appreciate and leverage our relationships for self-improvement. As we navigate the complex, often challenging waters of interpersonal relationships, let’s remember the divine counsel found in Doctrine and Covenants 88:123: “See that ye love one another; cease to be covetous; learn to impart one to another as the gospel requires.”

The journey of self-improvement is rarely a solitary endeavor. We progress individually, but also collectively, drawing strength from our relationships, learning from one another, and growing together in love and unity as we strive to become more like our Savior, Jesus Christ.

#6 Title: Embracing Our Limitations: A Pathway to Divine Assistance

Every day, we face an array of responsibilities, dreams, and tasks that tug at our time and attention. From daily chores to ministering assignments, from our family responsibilities to our personal aspirations, our lists often extend far beyond what we can handle within the limits of a 24-hour day.

This reality, while often daunting, brings with it an opportunity for spiritual growth and a deeper reliance on our Heavenly Parents. Recognizing and accepting our limitations can pave the way for divine assistance and profound lessons of humility and faith. 

As children of Heavenly Parents, we naturally aspire to accomplish much. We yearn to be of service, to make meaningful contributions, to nurture our families, and to progress personally and spiritually. In our zeal, we may find ourselves feeling overwhelmed, inadequate, or even guilty about the tasks left undone at the end of each day.

But what if these limitations are not indicative of personal failure? What if they’re the divine design intended to teach us valuable lessons and lead us closer to our Heavenly Father?

The principle of accepting our limitations can be a powerful tool for self-improvement and spiritual growth. It calls upon us to acknowledge our human condition — that we are not omnipotent beings, but mortals with physical, mental, and temporal boundaries.

Recognizing these boundaries can inspire humility, foster a deeper reliance on God, and engender a spirit of wisdom in how we prioritize and use our time.

watering garden

We might think of our life as a garden that we cultivate, with each seed representing our dreams, goals, tasks, and responsibilities.

However, even the most fertile garden has a limit to the number of seeds it can nurture at once. It’s essential to recognize this capacity and sow our seeds mindfully, focusing on what we can manage while accepting that there will be worthy pursuits we simply cannot attend to at the present time.

This acceptance does not equate to apathy or indifference to the tasks left undone. Rather, it invites a profound faith—a faith that as we do our best within our limited capacity, God, in His infinite capacity, can step in to assist.

We can petition our Heavenly Father, expressing our desires to do more than our mortal condition allows and humbly request His help in attending to the tasks and responsibilities we cannot fulfill. 

There is comfort in the understanding that we have been blessed with ministering angels who can “fill in the gaps,” extending their divine assistance where we fall short. This understanding can free us from feelings of guilt or inadequacy, allowing us to find peace in doing our best and leaving the rest to God.

The journey of self-improvement, then, becomes not just a quest to do more, but a pathway to become more reliant on our Heavenly Parents. It encourages us to navigate our limitations with humility and faith, confidently knowing that as we do our part, God will surely do His, enabling us to grow in ways that extend beyond our mortal capacities.

Accepting our limitations, then, is not a concession to defeat, but a declaration of faith—a faith that assures us of divine assistance when our mortal best is simply not enough.

It is a testament to our belief in a loving Heavenly Father, who stands ready to support us in our noble but often overwhelming quest for personal growth and service. In embracing our limitations, we open ourselves up to divine possibilities, learn profound lessons of faith and humility, and move a step closer on our path towards eternal progression.

#7 The Power of Intentional Neglect: Managing Life’s Overflowing Basket

Within the boundaries of our human existence, the challenge of time is an irrefutable constant. With only 24 hours in a day and a multitude of responsibilities, choices, and opportunities vying for attention, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed, or even defeated, by our limitations.

In the quest for self-improvement and growth, we often find ourselves striving to maximize every moment, hoping to complete the endless to-do list that spans everything from daily chores to profound spiritual endeavors.

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Yet, despite our best efforts, some tasks remain untouched at the end of each day. This stark reality can stir feelings of inadequacy or guilt and leave us questioning our worthiness and productivity. 

In the face of such seemingly insurmountable challenges, the principle of ‘Intentional Neglect’ can bring great peace and clarity. Far from advocating irresponsibility or inaction, this principle invites us to embrace our human limitations and mindfully choose where to direct our energy and time.

The doctrine of Intentional Neglect emphasizes the necessity of making conscious decisions about what we can feasibly accomplish within our capacity and what we must, for now, lay aside. It involves acknowledging that while we may desire to contribute to every worthy cause, assist every person in need, or excel in every aspect of our lives, we simply cannot do it all.

Drawing from the parable of the talents, we can understand that each of us has been given different capacities and resources in this life. Much like the servants in the parable, we are expected to use what we have been given to the best of our abilities, rather than mourn over what we lack or overstretch ourselves beyond our means.

Intentional Neglect teaches us that saying ‘no’ to some tasks is not a sign of failure or weakness. Instead, it is an act of wisdom, courage, and faith, enabling us to focus on our highest priorities and stewardships. By intentionally choosing to set aside certain tasks, we can ensure that we give our best to the responsibilities and relationships that matter most.

This principle also invites us to surrender our feelings of guilt or inadequacy and place our trust in the Lord. We can take our list of unattended tasks to our Heavenly Father and, much like in the sacred ceremony of the little white box, we can ask Him to extend His grace where we fall short. We are blessed with ministering angels and divine assistance that can help in areas we cannot attend to ourselves.

Our journey in mortality is not about doing everything but about doing our best with what we’ve been given. In the end, what matters most is not how many tasks we’ve checked off our list but the love, faith, and diligence with which we have lived our lives.

The principle of Intentional Neglect serves as a gentle reminder of this truth and offers a way to navigate our mortal journey with more grace, understanding, and self-compassion.

#8 Utilization of resources. To successfully navigate this journey, utilizing physical resources such as diagrams, calendars, and symbolic items can be an invaluable aid.

Diagrams, for instance, can serve as visual representations of our spiritual journey. They can help us map out our path, allowing us to see where we’ve been and where we’re going.

They offer a tangible way of capturing complex processes like self-reflection, planning, and growth.

Just like Lehi used the Liahona to guide his family through the wilderness, diagrams can guide us through our personal wilderness, highlighting the way towards spiritual growth and self-improvement.

Calendars are another potent tool in this journey. Our mortal lives are governed by time, and managing it well is paramount in achieving our spiritual and personal growth goals. By marking out time for different tasks and responsibilities throughout the week, including self-care, service, study, work, and family responsibilities, we effectively create a garden of activities.

Each ‘seed’ we plant—each appointment we make—is a commitment to cultivate a specific aspect of our lives. As we nurture these seeds, tending to them at their appointed times, we can expect to reap a rich harvest of personal growth and spiritual progress.

Symbolic items, too, have a special place in our faith tradition. These can serve as reminders of the covenants we have made, our faith, and our commitment to growth. One powerful example from the discussion is the idea of writing down the tasks we are unable to complete on strips of paper and placing them into a white box.

This act symbolically represents entrusting these concerns to God and His ministering angels, acknowledging our mortal limitations, and relying on divine assistance. In a world that often expects us to do it all, this act of humility and faith can be a powerful form of self-care.

Through these physical resources—diagrams, calendars, symbolic items—we can make the intangible processes of spiritual and personal growth more concrete. They remind us of our divine potential and capacity for change. In the words of President Russell M. Nelson, “We can change our behavior. Our very desires can change. … as we choose to follow Christ, He increases our capacity.”

In the end, the journey of self-improvement is a deeply personal one, and it’s essential to find the tools and resources that resonate with you and your faith. As we continually strive to “become better and holier” (Doctrine and Covenants 6:13), let us make the best use of all the resources at our disposal, both spiritual and physical, to draw closer to our divine potential.

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