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“I’m Not Okay, You’re Not Okay, But That’s Okay” does just that. This FREE ebook goes beyond the modern science of relationship psychology to show you how eternal principles and divine power can be harnessed to heal your relationship. The principles from this book are taught and expanded on the Marriage Repair Workshops and the Lazarus Lectures.
It was a rude awakening (this phrase doesn’t seem right, not even close to reality, but “Hit By A Truck,” a tsunami, tornado, avalanche, earthquake and whatever else it feels like is difficult to summarize) to discover that my marriage was not what I thought it was, that my husband was not the man I thought he was, but also that I was not the person I wanted to be and always hoped I would become.
Not only had I lost my dream of what I thought my marriage would be, who I dreamed my husband would be, who I dreamed I would be, but I lost myself, I lost my dreams and even, as I discovered, my ability to dream.
Discovering that my husband is addicted to pornography and masturbation, and had been for most of our 27 year marriage, was devastating and traumatising to say the least. But to later have him betray me with another woman was gut-wrenching, heartbreaking, debilitating and so much more.
I realized that my marriage was worse than crippled, it was dead, or very close to it, on life support.
I wondered if I should pull the plug, put it out of its misery, do the seemingly merciful thing and end it for everyone’s sake. Afterall, there didn’t seem to be any hope, the prognosis was grim at best. I certainly didn’t want to continue to live the way we were living, going along in misery, just for the sake of…what?
But we’d been together for so long, had 5 children together, and I’d never loved, truly loved, anyone else. I wasn’t sure I knew how to live without him, even though I knew I didn’t want to live with him, knowing what I now know.
What and where did this all leave me? I wasn’t sure, but I felt there had to be a way through it, a positive way through it, that didn’t include divorce, not yet, not without a fight.
Then I learned that there was a place, a person, a system, a team of people that could help bring me and possibly my marriage back from the brink of death or even from death itself. That’s what Life Changing Services, Maurice Harker, Lazarus Lectures and Marriage Repair have been for me, an absolute life changer and life saver.
“There is HOPE!“
I’ve learned that there is hope, I’ve learned that there are tools, that I can, with a lot of help and a lot of hard work, find myself, become the person I want to be, the person God expects me to be and that along the way I might possibly be able to help save my marriage and have myself and my marriage be better than I ever dreamed possible.
I know it will take a miracle, but I’ve already seen miracles in my own life during this journey so I’ve come to fully believe in them and I believe it will take a miracle or several miracles to save my marriage, but I fully believe it can happen.
The process that Maurice is teaching me, guiding me through, is so phenomenally different and successful. He is teaching and guiding me through a process of finding myself, figuring out who I am and who I want to be, learning how to dream again, connecting with God in a way I’ve never done before, strengthening my connection with God above all else, then slowly, in a wise and sustainable and healthy way, connecting with my husband again.
What I am learning…
I learned that my husband is not my enemy. Satan and his minions are my enemies. That one realization started to change everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, for me!!!
I’m learning how to deal with the trauma, the betrayal, the heartbreak, the triggers, the realities of a truly happy and fulfilling marriage and how that differs from what the world would have me believe is a happy and fulfilling relationship.
I’m learning to not just survive, but to thrive, by myself, separate from my husband while at the same time learning how to thrive in my marriage.
I’m learning the tools, the correct tools, for communicating, listening and speaking with God and my husband.
I’m learning how to build up my own supply of Spiritual, Emotional, Intellectual, Physical reserves with hopefully a surplus of what I need so that I have extra to share with my husband and vise versa.
I’m learning to rely on God, not the arm of flesh for all my needs. I’m learning that I must turn to God to show me my own weaknesses, rather than focusing and dwelling on my husband’s.
There is so much more!
No words of mine could ever do justice to what Maurice has given me and how much he has and is helping me. Suffice it to say, Maurice Harker, Life Changing Services, Lazarus Lectures, Marriage Repair and the WORTH Group have saved me, in so many ways, and are teaching me that I want to and how to save myself and my marriage.
The company name is Life Changing Services and that’s exactly what this experience is: Life Changing, in so many countless good ways. It’s not only life changing, it’s been life saving for me.
I feel that no marriage should die, completely die, without a good fight, but you have to fight the right person, and that’s Satan. And you can’t fight him alone!
Whether my marriage survives or not, I am a better person in every way and will be eternally grateful for having the opportunity to experience this process with God at the helm and Maurice His second in command.
If you would like a FREE DOWNLOAD of Maurice’s book, I’m Not Okay, You’re Not Okay, but That’s Okay. Using Eternal Principles To Heal Traumatized Marriages, CLICK HERE to download and start learning some of the principles taught in the Lazarus Lectures and Marriage Repair Workshops.
Used with permission, this was written to Maurice Harker by one of the participants of the Women’s Marriage Repair Workshop that includes the Lazarus Lectures. We have not included her full name in order to protect the privacy of her and her family.